Most dating website recommend a first step in communication -- the introductory e-mail. Whether you're responding to someone else's email or initiating one yourself, you have a chance to hit the ball out of the park and make a perfect first impression, or totally kill any interest in you this person may have had. One thing is for sure -- as the cliche says, you only have one chance to make a first impression, so the pressure's on. Just as you got your head together and wrote a solid dating profile, you're going to have to compose that all important first email, and even if writing is not your strong suit, we can help you get through it.
Introductions in Dating Websites, read it carefully!!!
The first thing you should know about introductions in dating websites is that its a good idea to take a little time to respond to an interested person. Just like flirting in person, you don't want to go overboard and "attack" a total stranger with your bone crushingly perfect email introduction. Responding within a couple of hours of their interest will make you look desperate, even a bit creepy. If you're responding to another person's interest, you have a couple of days to think about what you want to say and how to say it. If, on the other hand, you're writing to someone whose profile you've seen and makes YOU interested, rejoice -- you have even more time to work on your email. Of course, balance is the key -- don't wait too long, especially before writing to a new interest. Remember that other members of the same website can see the profile that interested you, and someone will likely earm that person's interest first.
Approach your intro letter as if it were a business letter or a college essay -- something important that is worth spending time on. You want to send something polished. You don't want to sound like an idiot, and you must be sure to put your best foot forward. On the other hand, the examples above are usually kind of impersonal letters, full of factual information about you. This isn't the direction you want to head. Instead, you should express some interest in the person, and it is best if this is disguised with humor. You need to reveal facts and values about yourself, again cloaked in humor or slight self deprecation, but the point is -- be interesting.
Just like being interviewed for a job, you want to show certain important things -- yes you want this date, but you must remind the potential date that you have value, that you are worth something and should be considered for a date for other reasons than the bare fact that you "need a date". This requires a delicate balancing act, but if you steady yourself, put the kibosh on your raging emotions and try to think clearly, the words will come to you just as if you're talking to someone you just met on the street. I would suggest you write a few sample intro emails and immediately discard the first two. This will get the cliches and the bad ideas out of your head and give you room to shine. Once you've written what you consider your final draft, just click the Send button. Remember that this person is seeking someone to date too, otherwise they wouldn't be on the same dating site as you. They will most likely appreciate that you chose them -- it is both a compliment and a good indication that there will be some compatibility between you.
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